“I wish everyone could feel the indescribable joy I felt when holding my daughter on my chest for the first time. Human life is not by chance. We are all here for a reason.”–Jessica
When you were younger, what did you think your life would look like?
Honestly, I didn’t think too much about my future when I was younger. I think I figured it would be a lot like my parents’ lives, because that was what I knew best. I knew I’d get married and have a family, but I had no concept of having a career or where exactly I would live.
As a teenager, I knew I would go to college, because that was “just what you do” in my world. I chose an out of state college, so as I graduated high school, the future I expected was to attend school near where my boyfriend had moved to and go from there.
I selected Sociology as my major after reading my university’s description of different majors on their website. I didn’t do any research as to what career that would lead me to or if it would make any money. I definitely would have made that decision differently if I could go back.
How did your dreams for the future change?
Well, first I will mention that my boyfriend and I broke up one month after I moved to California to attend a college near him. So that changed things … And although I loved the content of education my degree provided, I decided when I was a senior in college that I did not want to be what my degree was training me to be … a social worker.
I explored psychology and thought I wanted to become a therapist. I applied for a graduate program in psychology and was accepted, but it just didn’t feel right so I ended up turning that down. After my college graduation, I moved home for the summer to Washington. I fully intended to move back to California and get an apartment with one of my best friends, but God had other plans.
While home for the summer, my sister introduced me to one of her co-workers and friends, who also attended the college group at church that I was going to. He was pretty cute and we started hanging out. Long story short, I never made the move back to California. In fact, a year and a half later I married this boy.
So my dream of moving back to California changed to a future with Joey, and I’m so glad it did. I still love California and would love to live there, but for now it will just be one of my favorite places to vacation.
What were the kinds of pivotal moments that led you to where you are today?
Looking back, I have a lot of pivotal moments that led me to where I am today. I feel like I have talked about college a lot but, attending Vanguard University was a very big one of those “moments.” I moved to a school far from my family, where I didn’t know anyone. I met so many people who have changed my life and gained so many good friends from my time there.
Another pivotal moment in my life was meeting Joey. He treated me better than any other guy had before, and he loved Jesus just like I did. He became my best friend and the man who I will raise children with. That’s pretty pivotal if you ask me.
He also introduced me to a good friend of mine who helped get me a job at a car dealer I worked at for five years. That job taught me so much about professionalism, my work ethic, my talents and faults, and my character.
Unfortunately, I have also had some very scary pivotal moments involving family members and medical experiences. Are you ready for this? A month before my wedding, my brother was in a near-fatal motorcycle accident that doctors thought he would never recover from. He suffered a traumatic brain injury and had to learn how to walk, talk, eat, and live all over again.
Then a year after being married, my husband fell ill with what we thought was a migraine but would soon learn was a cyst in his brain that would require emergency brain surgery to remove. This next part is unbelievable. At 10:00 AM on October 2, 2015 my husband entered that operating room.
At the exact same time, my father was a few towns away beginning a procedure on his heart. That procedure revealed he had suffered a couple of heart attacks that year and that his heart was damaged. One week later he had open heart surgery. This. Was. The. Hardest. Time. Of. My. Life. Very pivotal.
After all of these family issues arose, I decided there was more to life than little things, like a stressful job, and Joey and I were fortunate enough to be in a place where I could quit my job and start to mentally and physically prepare for having babies. Six months later, we found out we were pregnant! Having my daughter has been one of my more recent pivotal moments.
What are you learning right now?
Financial freedom. I’ve been obsessed with the Dave Ramsey podcast lately and I’ve grown tired of living paycheck to paycheck and giving the banks all my money.
Having my daughter has brought me to a point in my life where I am really learning more about who I am as a mother, wife, daughter, sister, and friend. To be honest, I’ve been struggling with postpartum anxiety and I have been learning so much about what I truly value and how much my family means to me.
What do you love about your life in this moment?
How much time I get to spend with my family.
What brings you joy/fills your soul?
Seeing my little girl’s smile, being outdoors near water, and being with my family brings me joy and fills my soul.
If a kid walked up to you asking for your advice and you only had a few minutes to give them your best tip, what would it be?
Be kind to everyone. Plan for your future. Enjoy your present. Take Financial Peace University 😊.
What do you wish everyone knew about being a mom?
I wish everyone could feel the indescribable joy I felt when holding my daughter on my chest for the first time. Human life is not by chance. We are all here for a reason.